We are born alone.
We die alone.
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We are born alone.
We die alone.
It is a pretty straight forward picture, and it definitely is NOT pretty.
Although perusing craigslist is one of my favorite things to do, job ads come by the trillion and finding one to apply for is harder than it seems.
Picture This: I’ve sent over 20 resumes in the past month, and although I am qualified, over qualified or just right for the job, out of 20 resumes I have gotten ZERO replies. Some ads say that they will disqualify any “canned” cover letters, which means they want you to craft a cover letter specifically for their ad, which is what we should already be doing. However, how the hell do they expect us to tailor 20 different cover letters when we already know what it feels like to never get a reply. Not even a NO.
Feeling defeated will become second nature. I have yet to figure out how to turn that defeat into hope. This week I saw an ad on craigslist for a tech-savvy position in a new expanding company. It said, “walk-ins welcome 8-430”
Day 1 - I came at 4 since I read the ad at 3:30, by 4:20 they told me to go home and come back tomorrow
Day 2 - I arrive early around 9AM and I am told that the person doing interviews has gone home for the day. (REALLY?!)
Day 3 - Finally land the interview, to find out they aren’t staffing their web department yet, “But I would be great in a directors position when they do start staffing that segment of their company.” They’ll save my resume, which translates into: I’ll never hear from them again.
What I did appreciate about this little experience was that, the stout Asian man letting me down told me, “Don’t stop looking, I don’t want to give you hope because we don’t know when we’ll be hiring for that position just yet.” I appreciated that. Because hearing that I should expect a call within a few days is just torturous.
I’ve been reading around that the suicidal tendencies of the long term unemployed (6+ months) doubles if not triples in statistics. According to studies, suicides rise as the economy sinks. As post grads we must be aware of how this can affect us mentally.
Take care of yourselves out there, find someone or something that gives you hope, because it is a scary place for job hunters. Don’t take it personal, and try to treat the 500th application as the 1st. Keep the dream alive!
You can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will connect somewhere in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.
Because believing that the dots will connect down the road, will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path path.
And that will make all the difference.
You’ve got to find what you love.
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. And don’t settle.
As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking. Don’t settle."
Steve Jobs (1955-2011)
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